For instance, you say *I can't do [this] because of [that].* Like, *I can't get a raise because they want me to travel.* Maybe when you hold that thought up to scrutiny, you see that they only want you to travel x amount of days a month -- or only go x amount of miles away. X amount doesn't seem so bad now, does it?

Or, *I can't take that job because they want me to work week ends.* Then, you look into it further and see that it's only one week end, every two months, which just might be acceptable to you.

Put your *I can't because . . .* up to scrutiny before you make a final decision. See if it's worth changing your lifestyle, or whatever, to do whatever it takes to go forward.

When you are aware that the negative thought is there, that is the first step toward changing. Whenever you have a *I can't because . . .* take another look. Maybe it's a *I'd rather not because . . .* If that's the case, check your priorities. Scrutinize your thought. Maybe a thought pattern took control of your life when you weren't looking. Keep holding it up to the light until it goes away. Maybe that will help you take two steps forward and none backward.

Work with it until all your thoughts are good. Have a great life!

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