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When You Are Anxious, You Need A Nice,
Quiet Place To Go
~ By Jan Tincher

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When you are anxious or stressful, you HAVE to make a change or your body will rebel. The more stress you allow yourself to have -- and that word "allow" is very definitely emphasized here -- the more dangerous it is to you and your body. You HAVE to have a nice, quiet place to go. A comfortable place. Somewhere where you can relax and enjoy yourself. Some place you can go when you are anxious or stressed, and metamorphous into a relaxed state of mind. YOU need to make this place . . .

Now, this doesn't have to be some place fancy. Maybe just a comfortable chair in a corner or somewhere off by itself. A small table near it that can hold a pencil and paper and a candle. Maybe a stereo nearby playing soft music. Maybe some earphones.

The paper and pencil are for writing about something that happened today that you liked. When you write about it, you "cement" that good feeling into your system. Start out each sentence with "I am so happy . . ." For instance, "I am so happy I was able to come home early and relax." Or, "I am so happy the sun is shining." Or whatever makes you smile and feel good. Just keep writing.

When you are relaxed and comfortable, you aren't stressed or anxious.

Sometimes, though, we aren't near the quiet place we've made for ourselves. In that case, imagine a quiet place in your mind. Either place is capable of changing your physiology and your thoughts. Why? Because your brain does not know the difference between real or vividly imagined. So, if it's in your mind, visualize the staircase that takes you to your quiet room, visualize the door you will shut behind you, visualize your comfortable chair, visualize a small table near it holding a pencil and paper and a candle. Visualize a stereo nearby playing soft music. Hear the music, smell the candle, feel the relaxation immediately upon entering the room.

The important thing here is to program these areas, in your mind or in your home, with happiness, peace, joy. You need to know that when you sit in that chair you feel peace. You need to know that no matter what is happening in your life, when you sit in that chair, whether actually or in your mind, you are feeling peace. You need to know that, because you need somewhere to go when life gets stressful. If you don't make it a point to change the minute you sit in the chair, then you haven't learned how to relieve the stress. Accept nothing less. KNOW that the minute you sit in that chair, YOU are at peace. No one can hurt you and stress evaporates the minute you sit down.

Of course, this may take time and practice, so here's how to speed it up.

Every evening before you go to sleep and every morning when you wake up, make it a point to look at the screen of your mind where you've been visualizing your quiet place. See yourself uptight and anxious and stressful. Then, see yourself walk up to your quiet place, go over to your chair, and sit down. Watch as your bones just melt into the chair, you are so relaxed. Make it a point to do this every day. After 21 days of reinforcing this action in your brain twice a day, you will notice a shift. The great thing about it is you will notice that anxiety is no longer a focal point in your life.

Take the time to show your brain what you want and your brain will make that visualization your reality. Stress and anxiety are no longer a part of your life because you have learned how to deal with them. Congratulations!

Thank you for reading.

Jan

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