Has anyone ever said, "Your hair looks terrible." Did it spoil your day? . . .

Has anyone ever said, "Have you gained some weight lately? You’re looking bigger."?  So, of course, you headed for the first donut shop *to show them you didn’t care.*

Has anyone ever said to you at work, "You don’t look so good. Have you been sick lately?"?  Did you go home early that day, feeling bad?  Maybe with a touch of the fever?

People say things all the time that other people accept as gospel, take the wrong way, or take way too personally. Has that ever happened to you? Well, here’s a technique to help you get rid of those responses forever.

Imagine a line running through the middle of your body that starts at your forehead and goes straight down to your waist. On the left side of your chest, imagine a generator, whirl, whirl, whirl, just working away doing good things, regenerating things.

Now, on your right side is a garbage disposal. Anything that goes in there is going to be eaten up and destroyed. Watch as the water swirls around and the garbage disposal eats up whatever you sent there.

*** TIP . You may change them around, putting your garbage disposal on your left side and your generator on your right side, if that feels better. Just do whichever feels the most comfortable for you.

Now, in your mind, have someone say something you don’t like. How about *You don’t look so good."?

At this time, decide if that bothers you or not -- don’t miss doing that step, it helps you recognize what’s working for you. OK. You’ve decided you don’t like it. Put that on a paper banner, and swirl the paper banner in a circle, then let it slide into the garbage disposal.

What did the garbage disposal do with it? It chewed it up, didn’t it? Right! You’re doing great.

Now, have someone -- in your mind -- say something you like. How about *You’re looking good today. I like the way you’ve styled your hair.* OK, decide if you like that or not. You do, right? So, put it on a plastic banner, plastic so it will last a long time, let it swirl into the generator. How does that feel? Pretty good, huh? Why don’t you keep it around to think about the rest of the day? Just imagine how that will feel.

The *You don’t look so good* banner is gone, right? And so are the feelings.

That’s how you get rid of bad feelings. You take responsibility for them and get rid of them. If they’re good feelings, keep them around so you’ll feel good the rest of the day. Start taking charge of your life. You’ll enjoy it more and you’ll feel better.

How does it feel when you take charge? Pretty good, huh?

Thanks for reading,

Jan

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