Why Can’t I Stay Focused?

Why Can’t I Stay Focused?

Do you know how to focus? Really focus?…


Well, if you did know how, would it help you remember people’s names? Would it stop you from being nervous, or at least help you control your thoughts so your thoughts don’t make you nervous?

You bet!

How about if you talk too much or too loud? Would focusing help you?

You bet!

Would it help you remember where you left something? Or why you even walked into that room in the first place?

You bet!

Well, if focusing is such a benefit, why haven’t you learned how? Too many reasons to go into, right? Well, you’ve got time to read this now, you might as well learn while you’re here? OK!

Step one:  Sit or stand up straight. Take a deep breath and close your eyes.

Step two: Think of all the wonderful things that have happened in your life.

Tip: Your mind does not know the difference between real and vividly imagined. If you don’t have any wonderful things that have happened to you, imagine the wonderful things that have happened to a friend or acquaintance or the wonderful things you would like to experience.

Step three: Imagine what it feels like to experience something you don’t think you can handle.

Step four: Now, imagine yourself succeeding. Succeeding, regardless! How do you stand when you are successful? How do you look? How do you FEEL?

Step five: Now, on that feeling of exhilaration, feel the calm of confidence that is also there. Stand or sit straighter and imagine a golden glow of light in the shape of a funnel on the top of your head. Feel that light as it courses through your body.

Step six: Take another deep breath and hold it in. As you do, feel your heart beat.

ckmarkStep seven: Feel your heart beat in your left little finger. (Or if you can’t feel it there, feel it in your right elbow, or wherever, anywhere else besides your heart. Remember, whatever works, works.)

ckmarkStep eight: Wait a couple heartbeats or so, then mentally move your heartbeat from your left little finger (or wherever you had it) to another place on your body. Are you having fun yet? It’s always nice to stretch your mind, isn’t it?  Your mind is like a muscle, use it or lose it.

Tip: Release the breath whenever you feel the need, then take another deep breath and hold it. Do this throughout the exercise.

Step nine: Now, as you take control of your heartbeat, moving it at will, pick one place on your body you want to be your power place. Let’s say it’s your right thumb. That golden glow of light on your head is continuous and is flowing down, down through your arm into that thumb. Feel the power!

Do this daily. Do it often during the first few days until you feel your power just by thinking of your power place. While your mind is concentrating on your power place, it isn’t concentrating on anything else, and that’s one of the purposes of this exercise. To calm your mind.

End of exercise.

You have just learned to focus. After using this technique for 21days, it will become a habit. You will start to feel a shift in your thinking, and you will be able to feel the confidence this invokes in your mind. Answers will come to you out of the blue.

You can startle your friends with your knowledge, you can impress your spouse, and best of all you can teach others!  If you find yourself getting nervous in the future, check it out. What were you focusing on?

If you aren’t focusing on your power area, start focusing there immediately.

See the change. Feel the power.

Good luck!

Thanks for reading.

Jan Tincher





Jan Tincher


Master Neuro Linguistic Programmer


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