Do you wish you hadn’t said something in anger?
Do you wish you hadn’t jumped to an immediate conclusion and made a bad situation worse?
Do you wish you hadn’t reprimanded someone without getting all the facts?
Do you wish you knew how to take more control over situations without having to raise your voice?
We’ve all had times when we’ve talked too much, spoken too loudly, or spoken too quickly. The experience was, at the very least, regrettable. So, instead of repeating those experiences, why not learn how to “speak silently”?
NOTE: In order for this technique to help, you need to make a list of “looks” that will benefit you and practice them in front of a mirror. That’s right. It works.
This technique will show you how to get your way without being physically or verbally forceful. It will teach you how to give someone a “look” that tells them exactly what you want, peace to all.
As we all know, an expression alone can say many things.
A cocked eyebrow can say “What are you trying to tell me?” Or “What are you trying to do?” Or “What? Run that by me again.” Or “You heard me.” Or “I’ve got patience, but you’re trying it.”
What does a nod of the head say? A jerk of the head? A deep breath and solemn eyes? A jerk of the shoulders? What does it say when you stand up
v e r y s l o w l y… with your eyes on the person in front of you?
A look I find helpful is one that says “I’m feeling very peaceful.” That look is very important. Once you get it down pat, you give the look and feel the peace. Sometimes, that peaceful “look” is a trigger to help you feel peaceful, even before you convey peace.
Practice one expression or movement a week and see what happens. Why not start out with a look that means “Listen up. I’m going to say something important.” When you feel you have it perfected, check it out. See what reactions you receive.
NOTE: Don’t give up. If it doesn’t work, tweak it until it does. If you’re having problems, go on to the next “look”, but keep your eyes open for someone using that look. Sooner or later you’ll see it. Maybe they are breathing differently or standing in a way that enhances the look. You can learn a lot by studying others. Figure out what you are doing wrong, and they are doing right, and change it.
Spend time in front of the mirror, master the art of speaking silently.
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